{"id":4080,"date":"2019-04-02T16:16:30","date_gmt":"2019-04-02T10:46:30","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/blog.iilm.edu\/?p=4080"},"modified":"2019-04-02T16:16:30","modified_gmt":"2019-04-02T10:46:30","slug":"mindfully-develop-self-confidence","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/iilm.edu\/blog\/mindfully-develop-self-confidence\/","title":{"rendered":"How to Mindfully Develop Your Self-Confidence"},"content":{"rendered":"

Why focus on self-confidence?<\/u><\/em><\/strong><\/h2>\n

How many things in your life would you be doing differently if you were thinking and acting from a place of deep self-confidence? The capacity for\u00a0authentic<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0self-confidence offers many benefits, for example we become more creative and expressive, we find access to greater capacity for focus, mental stamina and energy, we experience greater peace of mind, and we experience life as fundamentally enjoyable and playful.<\/p>\n

What is self-confidence?<\/strong><\/p>\n

We will all have our own ideas of what self-confidence is, but the definition I normally work with (following Nathaniel Branden\u2019s definition of self-esteem) is that self -confidence consists of two distinct parts:<\/p>\n

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  • Self-worth<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 The belief that I am worthy of happiness, pleasure, enjoyment, well-being, success & so on and..<\/li>\n
  • Self-efficacy<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 The sense that I have the capacity to be successful in the face of life\u2019s challenges. Even if I currently lack the skills to be successful in a particular task, self-efficacy is a confidence in my ability to\u00a0learn<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0those skills as and when necessary.<\/li>\n<\/ul>\n

    If you lack a fundamental sense of your self-worth or of your capacity for self-efficacy, then your self-confidence is going to be built upon shaky ground!<\/p>\n

    Mindful methods for developing your self-confidence:<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n

    With the above definitions in mind, we can then start to adopt a multi-faceted approach to developing self-confidence, here are a few suggestions:<\/p>\n

    1. Connect and nourish your present self-confidence<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 No one completely lacks self-confidence, look for times and places in your life where you have felt and experienced self-confidence. Revisit them mentally, take an inventory of them, recall how it felt. Then look at how you can translate those experiences into feelings and attitudes of self-confidence in the face of your present life challenges.<\/p>\n

    2. Know what self-confidence feels like in the body<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Practice holding your body and feeling it in a way that communicates confidence and self-assurance to your mind. Our posture is often communicating all sorts of messages to us psychologically, so we need to take advantage of this rather than being victimized by it!<\/p>\n

    3. Make friends with the parts of you that are not self-confident<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 As the famous Gestalt therapist Fritz Pearls said \u2018As long as you fight a symptom it will get<\/em>\u00a0worse<\/em>\u2019 (I recommend meditating on that sentence for a long time!) Open to and get close with your fears, your vulnerabilities, the parts of you feeling fragmented. Care for them, experience them, open to them, allow them to become the\u00a0basis<\/em>\u00a0of your self-confidence, rather than the things you are trying to\u00a0escape<\/em>\u00a0<\/strong>from by developing your self-confidence. This needs careful thought, reflection and experience to understand, but it is super-important to get right!<\/p>\n

    4. Find role models for your self-confidence<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013 Find real life examples of people who are appropriate and inspiring role models for the type of self-confidence you want to have. Study them carefully and draw conscious inspiration from them.<\/p>\n

    5.\u00a0Do something each day to engage your self-confidence\u00a0\u2013<\/strong> Do something manageable each day to test and develop your self-confidence experientially and in real-time.<\/p>\n

    6. Practice mindful framing<\/strong>\u00a0\u2013\u00a0\u2018Last month I was depressed, and this month I\u2019m still depressed’\u00a0<\/em>sounds like a bit of a failure. \u2018Last month I was very depressed and although this month I am still depressed I feel\u00a0less\u00a0depressed, and there have been days when I have actually felt good\u2019\u00a0<\/em>sounds like progress and a cause of boosting our self-confidence. How we frame what happens to us mentally is crucial in terms of whether we experience something as supporting our self-confidence or not!<\/p>\n

    Conclusion:<\/u><\/strong><\/p>\n

    If you want to make this article a practical exploration, you could take one of the above six suggestions per day as a point of mindful focus for the next three weeks or so. See where it takes your own experience of\u00a0Mindful Self-Confidence!<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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