Kamna Yadav<\/p>\n
2nd June 2022\/15 Minute Read<\/p>\n
Movies, media, and storybooks have made us believe that \u201cmere hero\/heroin ayenge<\/em>!\u201d That ONE will be our whole world. We will spend our entire life with that LOVE of our LIFE. I would say our brains have been engrained with such thoughts where monogamy is the only form of love one can and should crave, which is also \u201cour sweet little fairytale\u201d. I am assuming that everyone will agree with me on this. If yes, let\u2019s take a retake!<\/p>\n Do you think the idea of a soulmate is outdated or unrealistic? Do you believe that you may encounter many hero\/heroines in your lifetime, or maybe an idea of having many others? Have you ever cherished numerous individuals at the same time? Maybe yes, maybe no, or maybe it is the morals that are speaking for us aloud \u201cNo, I can\u2019t have multiple hero\/heroines in my life\u201d, \u201cwhat will people think about me?\u201d, \u201cI can\u2019t be a bad person to be in a relationship with many\u201d. This concept has been alive for many centuries. Don\u2019t you believe me? Let\u2019s check some facts: What does it indicate when a celebrity comes out and says we are in an open relationship, a web series named XYX on OTT platform displaying non-monogamous relationships? According to a study at Kinsey Institute for Match.com, 68% of singles approve of polyamory and 6% practice it. Another research study showed 1.2 to 2.4 million people practice polyamory (Psychology Today). An article titled \u201cPolyamory is a reality in Kolkata\u201d published by Times of India narrated a real-life story of a couple who are in a non-monogamous relationship wherein they are married for 15 years, wants to be in their marriage and are in relationships with many others and still respects and love each other. This shows how common it is. Let\u2019s understand what exactly it is in next section.<\/p>\n WHAT IS POLYAMORY?<\/strong><\/p>\n According to Cambridge dictionary, \u201cit is the practice of having romantic relationships with two or more people at the same time\u201d, polyamory educators argue that the consent part is missing which has been correctly mentioned in Oxford\u2019s definition, \u201cthe practice of engaging in multiple romantic relationships with the agreement of all the people involved\u201d- indicating that people are aware of and agree to the relationship’s needs, emotions, and dynamics.<\/p>\n Individuals who distinguish as polyamorous may have confidence in an open relationship and conscious administration of envy and reject the view that romantic and social restrictiveness is essential for profound, long-lasting intimate relationships.<\/p>\n These individuals like to restrict their romantic relationships to just people from the specified group, a closed-knit polyamorous relationship. It has been described as an ethical, consensual non-monogamous relationship. Many polyamorists characterize loyalty not as romantic selectiveness but rather as dependability to the guarantees and arrangements made about a relationship.<\/p>\n Does it have types?<\/strong><\/p>\n Yes, it does have few types as seen from the image shared below:<\/p>\n Besides the above-mentioned types, there are a few other forms of polyamory relationships like solo polyamory, kitchen table polyamory, polycule.<\/p>\n Is it just a romantic relationship?<\/strong><\/p>\n It depends on the individual and the sort of relationship they want with their partners. Two different people will have different experiences in polyamory relationships.<\/p>\n Romantic dependency isn\u2019t a chief factor in polyamory, and individuals who seek polyamorous relationships don\u2019t take part in the over-the-top romantic movement. Some individuals who seek polyamorous relationships set boundaries such as defining the details of the relationship, time they spent with their partner, and other things to avoid any complications that might arise. A person who is in a polyamorous relationship must come to terms with their feelings, especially jealousy, which is very common to surface. Also, the constraints of society promote monogamous or single partner relationships. In the end, it depends upon the individual what kind of relationship they want.<\/p>\n Does it involve emotional connection, or it is the same as an open relationship?<\/strong><\/p>\n Polyamory relationships do involve love and emotional connection with multiple partners, which makes them stand apart from open relationships. An individual feels emotionally inclined toward someone outside marriage or committed relationships and looks out for connection, and I would say they fall in love with that significant other. In open relationships, one or both the partners have romantic relationships outside the committed relationship, including marriage. It might or might not involve an emotional connection.<\/p>\n LITTLE KNOW FACTS<\/strong><\/p>\n For many of us, it’s wrong, and for many, it\u2019s acceptable. Dr Chauntelle Tibbals, a sociologist said, “Just because polyamory is unfamiliar doesn\u2019t mean it\u2019s wrong\u201d. It might work for some, let\u2019s learn about few little know facts about polyamory.
\nPolyamorous relationships are a rejection of monogamous relationships. In other words, it is defined as a \u201cliberal, genuine, capable, and moral way of thinking and practice of cherishing numerous individuals at the same time\u201d. Is it getting confusing? Complicated? or in literal words, \u201cMere pairo tale zameen khisak gai?<\/em>\u201d<\/p>\n
\n\u00b7 It is more common than you believe<\/em>
\nIt can be observed from as early as Mahabharat, wherein Draupadi married five brothers, it was observed in practices of Raja and Maharajas. It is prevalent in the Kinnaur region of Himachal, Nilgiri hills in South India, Kerala, Uttarakhand, and is followed and practised by many tribes in India. Approximately more than 1.2 to 2.4 million individuals follow polyamory.
\n\u00b7 Polyamorous are Committed <\/em>
\nBeing polyamorous doesn\u2019t mean no-commitment. As quoted by Dr Clarke \u201cThere are individuals who face challenges in committing in general as well as few polyamorous do face few issues but most people he knows are in multiple committed relationships\u201d.
\n\u00b7 Polyamorous have different dealbreakers<\/em>
\nPoly individuals do work out their dynamics and parameters within the relationships. They can develop agreements in each relationship wherein all the parties agree and are comfortable. The meaning of cheating would differ in different relationships.
\n\u00b7 Consent and Communication are important <\/em>
\nAs it is crucial in a monogamous relationship, so does in a polygamous relationship. It is rooted in affirmative consent, and they communicate their needs and desires to make it a healthy relationship.<\/p>\n